HAVE THE COURAGE TO SAY “NO”

Title: Have the Courage to Say No: Setting Boundaries with Integrity

Sermon Summary: This sermon emphasizes the importance of maintaining integrity by having the courage to say "no" to things that don't align with God's priorities for our lives. Based on Matthew 5:37, the message teaches that just as our "yes" should be yes, our "no" should be no, without needing to swear oaths. The pastor explains that saying no is essential for maintaining godly boundaries, protecting our priorities, and fulfilling our divine purpose. While we must say no to ungodliness and sin, we must also learn to decline good things that aren't part of our current priorities or God's agenda for our lives. The sermon uses Jesus' own examples of saying no—to staying in Capernaum, to being made king prematurely, and to becoming a judge in inheritance disputes—to illustrate that even beneficial opportunities must be declined when they don't align with our God-given mission. True spiritual maturity involves both the courage to say no and the grace to accept no from others.

Key Points:

- Let your yes be yes and your no be no, as Jesus commanded in Matthew 5:37

- We must say no to ungodliness, sin, worldly lusts, and ungodly counsel

- People-pleasing can cause us to compromise our values and priorities

- Every time we say yes to something, we are saying no to something else

- Life has limited time and resources; we must define our priorities for each season

- Jesus said no to staying in Capernaum because His agenda was to spread the gospel to many towns

- Jesus refused to become a judge in an inheritance dispute because that wasn't His calling

- Jesus declined being made king prematurely because His purpose was to die on the cross first

- Saying no has consequences—Jesus lost disciples when He refused to do what they wanted

- We must have the courage to say no even when it costs us friendships or opportunities

- Spiritual maturity includes accepting no as an answer from others without manipulation

- We must respect people's relationships, priorities, and individual boundaries

- Don't let aggressive or manipulative people run your life through spiritual intimidation

- Saying no to the world means saying yes to Christ and His purposes

Scripture Reference:

- Matthew 5:37 (primary text)

- Titus 2:11-12

- Psalm 1:1

- Galatians 1:10

- Luke 2:52

- Mark 1:21, 32-39

- Luke 12:13-15

- John 6:14-15, 24, 26-27, 60-61, 66

- Ecclesiastes 3:1

Stories:

- The pastor's granddaughter Kelly who has no problem saying no to people, including her grandfather, demonstrating healthy boundaries even as a child

- A young lady in college who was crying because someone proposed to her and she felt she couldn't say no because "he hears from God"

- Joseph saying no to Potiphar's wife and going to jail as a consequence, but maintaining his integrity

- The pastor's experience in high school when the housemaster wanted him to identify who made a mess, and he refused to betray his peers

- The pastor and his wife working overtime before their first son was born, including his wife doing overtime on Saturday and going into labor Sunday

- The pastor working a second job to buy a new car with air conditioning before his first child was born

- A story about a young man who couldn't take his father to the airport because his pastor had a program

- A Ghanaian politician who ignored his bank manager's warning about suspicious deposits, saying "who is going to ever change us?" and eventually getting caught

- The pastor declining to be a consultant for a former employer despite being offered money

- The pastor refusing to get involved in politics despite being encouraged to do so in Ghana